Regardless of the quality of their performance in bed, most people have concerns about their sexual abilities at one time or another, be it at the level of mastery of a particular technique or about pleasure that experiences their partner during intercourse. But in reality, the question they must ask themselves more than any other is: “Have I lasted long enough in bed? ”
The easiest way to find out if a sexual intercourse has gone well is to assess each partner’s feelings after intercourse. If the satisfaction is reciprocal, it means that there is nothing to review and that the timing does not really matter. If satisfaction is one-way, it means that one of the two partners has to make more effort. And if neither of them is satisfied with the outcome, it is that they must need help to better manage these moments to better enjoy.
Be that as it may, many of us are eager to know how we compare ourselves to others when it comes to endurance, and now science has the answer to our questions.
Figures that say a lot about our performance in bed
More than a decade ago, researchers came together and put in place an almost infallible method of measuring the length of time that sex can take. Here is a general overview of the study:
“A total of 500 couples were recruited in five countries, the Netherlands, the United Kingdom, Spain, Turkey and the United States. Registered men were 18 years of age or older, had a stable heterosexual relationship for at least 6 months. The population surveyed was not included or excluded based on ejaculatory status and disease. This survey was therefore conducted at the level of a “normal” general population. Sexual intercourse was timed for a period of 4 weeks and was recorded, along with circumcision and possible condom use. ”
Looking for a universal average
Not surprisingly, there was a wide variety of timings. In all couples, the average time for each was 33 seconds to 44 minutes. The two main conclusions obtained since this information are:
There is no average time because everyone is different. And with such differences, it is difficult to say what is “normal” and what is not.
If we had to reduce all this to a single number, the median time that people lasted was 5.4 minutes.
And it turns out that there were a few factors that contributed to the variation in the duration of the different sexual sessions of the different participants. Being circumcised or wearing a condom did not have a significant effect on a man’s stamina in bed, whereas age had a real impact on him and therefore older couples could not last as long as others.
The researchers also found that Turkish couples had a higher average score, which means that sexual stamina can actually change from one nationality to another.
How far can this study be reliable?
Of course, there are some problems with this study. First, the demographics were obviously skewed, with all subjects coming from predominantly white nations. Secondly, the pressure of having to go to bed to have sex has probably made life a little more stressful for the people involved and has almost certainly affected some people. And finally, all the people tested were heterosexual couples, and we know for a fact that the time spent in the room depends enormously on the number and orientation of the people involved.
So, if we’ve learned something from all of this, it’s that there’s no “normal” way to make love, but if you close the loop in five minutes, you can at least say that you are average. However, when it comes to discussing sexual prowess, it’s not something you can brag about.